Redefine beauty, lets lead by example

How do we redefine beauty?

The other day I posted this picture to Instagram.


It was followed by this caption…

She is watching me. Yesterday I put makeup on. I don’t get around to wearing makeup as often as I used to now that I have a munchkin. I began to tell Genevieve that mama was getting pretty. I then added, “Mama is always pretty but makeup is fun and it enhances mama’s features.” I don’t want to raise my daughter to think that makeup is what makes a woman pretty or beautiful. Our girls are always watching us, wanting to mirror all that we do. Let them mirror confidence, strength, joy and compassion. Be the example of true beauty that they will one day teach their own daughters. Whether you wear makeup regularly or once a month, your child thinks you are beautiful just as you are, own it!  

Later that evening I began to ponder…

Firstly, how does this concept apply to mothers of sons as well as daughters? Secondly, not only do we need to own our beauty, we need to redefine what beauty means.
imageI do not have any sons of my own but I hope to someday. What do I want my future sons to think about beauty? Imagine if a young man was taught that being smart, courageous, kind, compassionate, and strong was beautiful.

When we as women are constantly critiquing ourselves and our physical bodies we send the message to our children and society that something is wrong with us. In the future when our children face similar challenges, will they think something is wrong with them or will they be equipped to own their beauty?

What if we valued our strengths and stopped focusing on our flaws. Maybe there would be less bullying in schools if we stopped bullying ourselves. Our children are impressionable like clay in our hands. Let’s mold them into people that see others value. Raise them to see their own value. Not only to love and respect others but also to love and respect themselves.

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. – Steve Maraboli

Redefine your beauty. Lets teach our kids what true beauty is instead of society.

May we lead by example and start with how we treat ourselves.

Think positive thoughts. Speak kindly to yourself. Our kiddos are always watching, always listening, always learning. Own it mama. Let’s redefine beauty!norfolk

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18 comments: On Redefine beauty, lets lead by example

  • When I was pregnant with my son, I made a pact with family members to never say negative things about our bodies in front of him. He will hear messages in society about what is considered ideal and beautiful, but I don’t want those messages coming from me. I want to model that women are strong, smart, caring, capable, and funny. I want to compliment him on what he achieves, instead of him hearing “you’re so cute” all the time (which I am so guilty of saying, because he really is just so cute, so maybe I’ll say both)!

    • That is so awesome that not only you but also your family is setting a great example for your son. What a wonderful idea! And I am guilty of saying, “You’re so cute” all the time. I can’t help myself. I think balance is the key. Thanks for connecting Kate.

  • Beautiful message! Very true I think its very important what we teach our family. A very important reminder!

  • Love this! I wrote about makeup a little while back. I want to teach my son and daughter what true beauty is.

    • I agree with you Robbi, God created each and everyone of us beautifully. It is so easy to forget that we are perfect just as we are. I am thankful there are other mamas out there to help remind me. 🙂

  • I love this! It’s also so important for fathers to talk to out children about their concept of beauty too. My husband had many talks with our son when I was pregnant about inner beauty. It really helped me to feel beautiful to hear my son say positive things to me about how pretty I was. Our children need to learn that true beauty comes from the inside.

    • It is so wonderful to hear that your kids are learning these lessons from mom and dad! My husband made me feel beautiful during my pregnancy and also does so on a regular basis. It really makes an impact. Thank you for commenting. 🙂

  • So true! It’s easy to slip up and criticize ourselves and forget that our daughters are watching. Good thing to keep in mind!

  • I really love this post! It makes me think how I will teach my son what beautiful is. Thanks for sharing this!

  • I have a new daughter and I’m so conscious when she reaches up at my face, grabs my nose, I know she’s memorizing every feature like I did with my mom. Thanks for this reminder. It’s critically important!

    • My daughter will feel my face too. I think sometimes she knows me better than I know myself. Our babies love us just the way we are but we are not used to loving ourselves as we are. I am glad you enjoyed it.

  • I’m so glad I found this! Addison is two and wants to mimic everything I do! This is a good reminder that I am sending the message of what’s important to her every day.

  • Very thought-provoking, indeed. I too have a little girl who I want to raise to have self-confidence and to value inner beauty over outer. When she was a baby, I hid to put on makeup. Now that I cannot keep her in her highchair while I do that 🙂 I do explain to her what I do. I told her I put on makeup because “Mommy has holes on her face and I use makeup to cover them” which is totally true. I had bad acne when I was a teenager and I used makeup to cover up those scars. I’m glad that my daughter then said, “I don’t have holes on my face and so I don’t need makeup!” She’s absolutely right!

    I also don’t wear makeup most of the time and I tell her that I only do this when I want to cover them, but I don’t have to if I don’t want to. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t. Just like she sometimes likes her pony socks and sometimes she doesn’t. Hope she knows that she has a choice in this and that choice comes from her, not from outside pressure! #RookieParents

    • Your daughter sounds like a sweetheart. I think that it is awesome you are teaching her that she has choices and doesn’t have to do things cause everyone else does. She is lucky to have you as a mama. 🙂

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